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“I have come to believe that caring for myself is not self-indulgent. Caring for myself is an act of survival.” - Audre Lorde  If you've ever traveled on an airplane you know before every take-off, the flight attendant reviews the safety procedure.
I've traveled enough to be familiar with it and I admit, my eyes kinda glaze over when they’re going through it, but there’s one part of the demonstration that stuck with me for as long as I can remember. Put on your own oxygen mask before assisting anyone, and that means A-N-Y-O-N-E. I mean think about it…it does make sense…if you’re struggling, it's more difficult to help someone else. Self-care is like that oxygen mask…it is necessary for your survival. Unfortunately, many women run themselves into the ground…putting others ahead of themselves…their kids, their spouse, their work, and so on. Saying “yes” to everyone else and “no” to themselves…until it’s absolutely necessary to put themselves first…and even then many feel guilty about it. Why?....The reasons vary. …….But one thing is the same across the board…whether you believe it or not….you are #1 and it’s important you treat yourself as such. Self-care is deliberately taking care of your mental, emotional and physical health…..and it’s important because these areas of wellness have an impact on other areas of your life…even your finances! Self-care is an everyday thing…not just a luxury you take advantage of only when you are totally depleted nor is it a “well-earned” reward. Here are some examples of how to practice self-care: - Develop a regular sleep routine - Eat healthy meals - Take breaks - Use your sick leave - Develop a regular exercise routine – but listen to your body and allow your exercise to reflect how you feel. - Do something that brings you a sense of joy - Repeat positive affirmations - Share only positive things on your social media - Define new goals each week - Allow yourself time to pause Self-care doesn’t have to cost you money…but if women aren’t taking care of themselves…their actions can end up costing them a heck of a lot more than money….does “burnout” mean anything to you? You are your #1 responsibility (it doesn’t matter what anyone else says) and to be able to show up 100% in your life…self-care is something that could be considered vital. If you spread yourself too thin….you will snap…simple as that. Allow yourself the time to reflect on ways you could easily incorporate self-care into your daily life, write them down, and keep them somewhere visible. It doesn’t have to be anything dramatic or time-consuming. Every week, choose one small self-care routine that you commit to following each day that week....non-negotiable. Remember.....you ARE worth it! I would love to hear from you! Hit reply and let me know which self-care practices you'll be making a part of your daily routine. Thank you for being part of my community! Have yourself a totally fantabulous day and let your awesomeness shine! Until next time..... Glenda
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“Debt is like a bad relationship; sometimes it’s a heck of a lot easier getting into it than out of it.” - Glenda Barrington, Money Coach  Today I want to chat a little about your relationship with your money…or….more specifically…breaking up with your debt. Chances are that you know what it’s like to be in a crappy relationship…. whether it’s with a family member, a lover, a friend or someone else in your life. You know the kind I'm talking about….. the soul-sucking relationship…the one that drags you down and makes you feel like crap. Debt can be like that. Being in debt can feel like being in a bad relationship. It can drain you mentally, physically, and emotionally but the good news is, even if you can’t see it right now…there is a way out. .....You can break up with your debt! It isn’t easy…it takes time, energy, commitment, and investment on your part… and you have to be willing to stick with it for the long haul. But you don’t only break up with your debt, you want to break up with it and then kick it to the curb so it doesn’t drag it’s sorry ass back in! Sure, there's gonna be bumps along the way…but you just keep your eye on the prize…life without debt! One of the most effective ways to stay on track is to know your “why”…the reason or reasons why it’s so important for you to get out of debt. Why do you want to get out of debt …..and stay out of debt? { space for the answer to come into your awareness } I want you to dig deep on this one because when things are feeling kinda shaky and you’re not feeling motivated ….or you feel like you just want to give up…your “why” is what will keep you focused and moving forward…. even if you trip up along the way! For many people, it’s not always easy to find their “why”…I mean their real why…. Sure it would be good to get out of debt…but why is it important to you? What would debt-free mean for you? Give yourself a little time to think about it. There are no right or wrong reasons…only your reasons. In the meantime…. I’m very excited to share with you "8 Great Reasons To Break Up With Your Debt And Kick It To The Curb!" For your reading pleasure, I’ve packaged them in a handy dandy guide with journal prompts….jussst to help you get those little grey cells of yours working to switch you into a “life without debt” frame of mind. Download your guide by clicking on the button below: Yes, getting out of debt takes time, but you are worth it!
You deserve to be free from the weight of debt that drags you down and you deserve to live a life in control, independent, and on your terms! I would love to get your feedback on the guide and your experience with it! Please share in the comment section below. As always, I am grateful you're part of my community! Have yourself a totally fantabulous day and let your awesomeness shine! Until next time..... Glenda “Don’t wait. The time will never be just right.” - Napolean Hill  I don’t know about you…but for me, I usually take action, especially on the important stuff, when I feel it’s the “right” time for me to do it. A great example of this is when I was struggling with money and up to my arse in debt. I mean yeah, at first it didn’t seem so bad…things were tight but I was keeping the wolves from the door. I kind of had a life…nothing to be excited about, that’s for sure and the bills were being paid on time. Although I was only making minimum payments on credit cards….. but at least I was making ends meet…sort of. If I had taken the time to really look at my situation, earlier in the game. I would have clearly seen something I was refusing to acknowledge…my expenses far outweighed my income and I was using credit to fill the gaps. Not a good idea…. I was working three jobs…I was miserable…I was stressed out…I was exhausted mentally and physically but I was hanging in there…until I couldn’t hang in there anymore. Only then, did I see it as being the “right” time to do something about the state I had gotten myself into. I guess I was a bit of a sucker for punishment. I mean seriously, when I look back at it, what the heck did I even gain by letting things go that long? Short answer, f**k all! At the time I was more concerned about not ruining my credit score and feeling embarrassed to admit that I didn’t know how to manage my money, I had screwed up, got myself into a mess I couldn't get myself out of… even though I was doing the things I thought I needed to do. I’ve matured a lot since then…I mean after all I was just a kid, not quite 40 years old ….what did I even know? One thing I've learned is that we only know what we know…knowledge and skills don’t magically pop into our heads…we have to make it a priority to learn these things. Investing our time, our energy, and maybe even our money. We have to realize that we deserve better. We have to get over ourselves, reach out and ask for help. What about you? What does your "right" time look like? Here’s a question to ask yourself: How much pain do you have to be in, financially, before you take action to change things around? There’s no right or wrong answer…just be honest with yourself… Have yourself a totally fantabulous day and let your awesomeness shine! Until next time..... Glenda Would you like to have these blogs delivered directly to your inbox? Click on the button below and sign up for my weekly newsletter. "Trying to live a rich, wealthy life when you have a poor relationship with money is like trying to drive a car with one foot on the accelerator and the other one on the brakes. You may occasionally make some progress but in the end no matter how hard you try you never seem to really get anywhere." - Paul McKenna, Ph.D.  Do you ever sit back and think about your relationships with the people in your life?
Chances are, you do…especially if one of them is a little rocky. You probably mull over it, think about what’s wrong…what you can do to fix it and so forth. If you’re anything like me, you analyze the crap out of it! Relationships with family, friends, lovers, co-workers or the people that just happen to be in your life are an important part of life as a whole and realistically they are important to your survival. But what about you and your money? Have you ever taken the time to sit down and look closely at that relationship? Whether or not people realize it, their relationship with money plays a huge role in their financial success – success being whatever it looks like to the individual. The money stories they tell themselves can guide them to wealth or prevent them from achieving it. Money is a tool used to allow us to exchange goods and services…that’s it. However, many people have given a deeper meaning to it…they are connected emotionally to money through their beliefs around it. You are not born with these beliefs. Good or bad, these beliefs are conditioned beliefs…they are the beliefs instilled in you by your parents and caregivers and other influences from your childhood. These beliefs guide you unconsciously… If you believe you have to work hard to make money, you will only look for jobs that involve a lot of effort. If you believe that everyone is out to rip you off, you will find people who will do that. If you believe that you deserve great wealth, then your mind will look for opportunities that create that. It’s time to let go of the negative stories that you’ve been telling yourself about money! It’s great if your money stories are leading you to a life of wealth and riches but if they aren't….well, you need to be figuring out which stories are playing in your head and re-write the ones that are holding you back. It’s time to let go of the negative stories that you’ve been telling yourself about money! Some people can do this on their own…some need support, either way, …this is a first step that needs to be taken so you can break up with your debt and create a life that excites you! What does your relationship with money look like? What does money mean to you? Here is an exercise you can try. Answer the following questions and then, to dig a little deeper, question your responses, ask "why"? Journal about the thoughts and emotions that come up. - If money is the topic of conversation, do you feel comfortable talking about it or do you try to avoid the conversation? - How do you feel when you pay your bills? Resentment, worry, scarcity, gratitude, or some other feeling? - What beliefs around money did you inherit from your parents/guardians? - What do you remember most about your childhood, in regards to money? - If someone gives you money (or anything of value) how do you feel about it? Happy, grateful, uncomfortable, unworthy, indebted o,r some other feeling? - How do you feel about your income? Satisfied, happy or feel that you are not getting paid enough, yet you continue doing the same work for the same pay? - Do you hang onto money or do you spend it freely? - Do you put off important things like car repairs or dental work because of the cost? What about if you have the money to pay for it, do you still put it off? - Do you attach how much money you have to your self worth? - How do you feel about people who have very little money? - How do you feel about people who have a lot of money? - What do you value most: money, material things, or experiences? Do you see any areas where your beliefs may be holding you back from achieving financial success? This exercise is a great start to get you thinking about your relationship with money…is it a love story? If it isn’t, it’s time to start nurturing your relationship with money and strengthening it because whatever meaning you are attaching to money is either drawing it closer or pushing it away. When you have a healthy relationship with money, you feel satisfied, not stressed out over it. Remember, you are worth the time it takes to figure this out! |
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