" YOU ARE MORE PRODUCTIVE BY DOING FIFTEEN MINUTES OF VISUALIZATION THAN FROM SIXTEEN HOURS OF HARD LABOUR."
Chances are, at some point or another you’ve spent a little (or a lot) of time daydreaming of the life you desire.
Daydreaming is awesome! Not only do you see the picture of what you want to achieve but you feel the emotion that goes with it. I mean, what’s the point of hanging out in a daydream if you don’t feel some level of happiness or joy about it, right?
But what if your daydreams had a purpose other than that of passing time or escaping reality?
What if you used these daydreams in a more strategic way, as a tool to help you achieve your financial goals and make your desired life a reality?
This my friend, is where visualization comes in, it's a bumped up version of daydreaming or as Bo Bennett puts it, "Visualization is daydreaming with a purpose."
You don’t need a crystal ball to see your future…you can design it instead!
It all starts with your value-based goals and the things that are important to you. Maybe your goal is to get out of debt. That's a great start, but why? What does getting out of debt mean for you?
What does it look like? Be specific, you want to see all of the details. What are you doing? Who is with you? What do your days look like? And so on.
What emotions can you attach to your goals? How do you feel when you imagine achieving them? Are you excited? Filled with joy? Happiness? Pride?
Use your senses in your visualization. What do you see? Are there any specific sounds you hear? What can you taste? What aromas can you smell? Is there anything you can touch?
Write down as much detail as you can. You want to be able to create a vivid mental picture of it, so vivid that you feel like you are living it!
Maybe reading your description is enough to get you motivated and to keep you motivated, but if you want to be more, create something more visual, a drawing, or a painting or a collage of pictures. Or maybe you would prefer to put it in a song!
It’s up to you, let your creative juices start flowing and do whatever you need to do to help you keep a clear mental picture of your goal, with all of the emotion and the sensuality of it!
The next part is to visualize the process of reaching your goal. What steps do you need to complete to reach your goal?
"See" yourself completing each step, how does it feel? Which of your senses is being engaged?
As Frank Niles, Social Scientist puts it, "It is a powerful way to achieve positive, behavioral change and create the life you desire."
Visualization can help you stay focused on your destination, but it alone does not guarantee success in achieving your goals. There is more to the process than just thinking and dreaming about reaching your goals, you also have to engage in the activities that are aligned with them.
So what do you want? What does your desired life look like?
Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you want to invest in yourself but your uncertainty holds you back? You can see the benefits of the investment but you come up with so many reasons why you shouldn’t do it, that you pretty much talk yourself out of it.
Now, you might laugh at what I’m about to say…but I kid you not.
Buying underwear (bras and panties) is a tough decision for many women to make.
Yes, there are many styles to choose from, but often, it’s the financial investment that puts the brakes on the buying. And it is an investment, no doubt about it…the price of a good bra will make your eyes pop and if you choose the matching undies, well, that will probably make you wonder if there are threads of gold in those drawers.
But it's not only a financial investment.
Your undergarments are foundational pieces. Yes, they keep your wobbly bits in place and make your outer garments look better but they do more than that.
What you are wearing underneath has the ability to make you feel confident or sexy or freaky or whatever it is that you are aiming for. You aren't just buying underwear, you are investing in you.
Maybe you’ve found yourself in a similar situation…
...you know your underwear needs an overhaul but after running through all the reasons why you shouldn’t buy now, you decide that what you have is good enough for now and you can buy something later.
In the meantime the support in most of your bras are at a point where the “girls” look like they are resting in a hammock and the little holes in your underwear become unintentional air-conditioning.
On the other hand, maybe you are an impulse shopper. You don’t talk yourself out of the purchase…but when you get home, that’s when the remorse sets in and you dwell on all the reasons why you shouldn’t have spent the money, and you feel guilty about it.
Women often let their doubts and insecurities stop them from investing in themselves.
Your doubts and insecurities can prevent you from investing in more than just your skivvies, it can prevent you from personal growth and development in other areas of life such as improving your financial, physical, emotional, intellectual, spiritual and/or social state.
That, in the long run, can impact you and your life in a negative way.
Here are a few of the more common blocks that prevent women from investing in themselves.
1. Instead of making themselves the highest authority of their own lives. They seek permission to grow, from others.
It’s up to you to determine what you need, want and deserve and find a way to get it.
2. They aren’t sure it’s the “right” time.
Realistically it might never feel like the “right time”; you will always be able to find some excuse as to why you don’t have time to do something critical that will help you. Not being the “right time” doesn’t mean it isn’t the best time. It’s up to you to carve out the necessary time and money to make it happen.
3. They are worried that they won’t get enough out of it or that it will be a mistake.
You are the key player in your return on investment. Yes, it takes research to determine if something is worth pursuing but more than that, your commitment, actions, and decisions directly affect your results.
4. They are afraid to achieve success.
Instead of feeding your unfounded fears about what might happen if you succeed in achieving your goals focus on the positive aspects of your success.
5. They feel guilty about spending money on themselves and put the needs of others ahead of their own.
I’m not talking about women who are struggling to keep a roof over their head or food on the table. I’m talking about women who have discretionary income, yet still feel guilty because they want to do something to aid in their own movement forward, instead of using it for the good of others.
Does any of this sound familiar?
Are you putting off investment in yourself, even though you know it will help you move closer to living your "ideal" life?