"I want my life to be a constant struggle" ...says no one, ever!

If you were given two choices:

1. You could live a life filled with fear, anger, misery, lack, deprivation and everything else that goes with it, OR

2. You could live a life filled with abundance, gratitude, happiness, joy, peace, love, creativity and everything that goes with that.

Which would you choose?

I’m willing to bet that the odds of you choosing #2 are pretty good!

You may be thinking, "Yeah, it sounds great but that’s not my reality."

Here’s the thing….it is your reality! Believe it or not, you DO have that choice…that’s right, it may sound a little cray cray but you, my friend have the power to choose which life you want to live! It’s in YOUR hands!

It’s all about perceptions, basically, what you choose to "see" and focus your time and energy on.

This is an interesting time that we are going through right now, no doubt about it. As COVID-19 does it’s thing, you have to adapt to new ways of performing your regular activities such as work, grocery shopping, exercise, shopping in general, and so forth.

You can look at these changes in two ways:

1. Focus on how it is negatively affecting you.... bitch about the upheaval in your life or how big your arse is getting from sitting in front of the TV (guilty!)....gripe about how you can’t wait for things to get back to normal…and so forth.
(Reading this, can’t you just feel the negative, "dark" energy??)

                                                                      OR

2. You can use this event, this blip in your lifetime as a teachable moment. What good has come from this? What new (healthy) habits have you created? Which old (unhealthy) habits have you let go of? What great things and lessons learned will you bring with you moving forward, how can you create a better life for you?
(Ahhh…the heaviness is lifting and the light is beginning to shine 😊.)


Instead of complaining about all of the things that you can’t do, take stock of the good things that you have been doing.

For example:

- Instead of complaining about all of the things that you can’t do, take stock of the good things that you have been doing. Personally, I now spend more time walking and hanging out in nature, than I have in a long time!

- By not having the same spending "freedom" as you had before maybe you’ve saved some money.

- Maybe you’ve come to realize that many of the things that you "needed" to buy and spend money on before, turned out to be things you only wanted.

- Now that you have been forced to be more creative about how you spend your time, maybe you’ve taken up a new hobby or revived an old one.

I’m not flitting around, wearing blinders and singing "la la la la la" trying to make light of the situation nor am I ignoring the fact that lives have been lost during the pandemic.


What I am saying is yes, these things happened and it’s OK to acknowledge them, and learn from them but the key here is that you don’t need to hold onto them.

 You can choose to let go of the 'darkness'. 

You don’t need to make it the constant topic of your conversations or spend time listening to every report from a dozen different media sources, you don’t need to give negative subjects your constant focus and energy. …you can choose to let go of the "darkness".


You get to choose your perception of a situation.


The same applies to improving your financial situation. Many people think that following a spending plan or budget could be a light form of torture, depriving them of all things great; putting them in a position where the purse has been glued shut, leaving them to scrimp and save until their debt is paid off.
(Hello "darkness" my old friend….that is, the friend I want to ditch.)


Instead, following a spending plan can be looked upon as a way to help you live a life you love!

Wow! That sounds like a pretty heavy load for a spending plan to carry, right? But it isn’t…

Look at it this way…

First of all, if you have debt, that is one relationship that you need to be getting out of a.s.a.p. because it’s holding you back! The money that you are paying on debts (and interest) could be better used elsewhere. Getting out of debt is probably one of your most important financial goals.

Secondly, while you’re paying off your debt, your life does not go have to go on hold. Realistically, depending on your situation, it may take you a while to get out the debt but this doesn't mean you still can't live a life that you love! As your Money Coach…I want you to be loving your life …right now! I don't want you to make it a reward that you can only access AFTER you kick your debt to the curb.

What?? Can this be??

It sure can, and here’s one way to make it happen: instead of buying things to fill a space (inside of you or outside of you), you create a spending plan based on your values and what’s important to you.

Yes, debt repayment is a part of the plan but when you determine what your values are, you spend money only on the things and experiences that reflect what's important to you ...this is how you start to live a life you love!

How friggin’ awesome is that!??

You DO have the power of choice, it's one of your greatest superpowers!

Obviously there is more to it than that and it does take time to re-wire old thought patterns, but you DO have the power of choice. It's one of your greatest superpowers.

You can choose to live a life filled with darkness ( Fear, anger, misery, lack and deprivation and everything that goes with it) or

……. a life filled with light (abundance, gratitude, happiness, joy, peace, love, creativity, and everything that goes with that.)


It’s much easier for us mere mortals to default to the darkness but by making small changes and being patient and mindful, you can spend more time living your life in the light.