Well hello hello and happy day!
Here’s a question for you….
Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you want to invest in yourself but your uncertainty holds you back?
The investment could be anything…investing your time, your money, your focus, your energy, and so on….
You can see the benefits of the investment but you come up with so many reasons why you shouldn’t do it, that you pretty much talk yourself out of it.
Now, you might laugh at what I’m about to say…but I kid you not.
Buying underwear (bras and panties) is a tough decision for many women to make.
Yes, there are many styles to choose from, but often, it’s the financial investment that puts the brakes on the buying.
And it is an investment, no doubt about it…the price of a good bra will make your eyes and if you choose the matching undies, well, you might wonder if there’s thread of gold in them there drawers.
But it's not only a financial investment.
Your undergarments are foundational pieces.
Yes, they keep your wobbly bits in place and make your outer garments look better but they do more than that.
What you are wearing underneath has the ability to make you feel confident or sexy or freaky or whatever it is that you are aiming for. You aren't just buying underwear, you’re investing in you.
Maybe you’ve found yourself in a similar situation…
...you know your underwear needs an overhaul but after running through all the reasons why you shouldn’t buy right now,
you decide what you have is good enough for now and you’ll buy something later.
In the meantime the support in most of your bras is at a point where the “girls” look like they are resting in a hammock and the little holes in your underwear become unintentional
On the other hand, maybe you’re an impulse shopper. You don’t talk yourself out of any purchase…but when you get home, that’s when the remorse sets in and you dwell on all the reasons why you shouldn’t have spent the money, and you feel guilty about it.
Women often let their doubts and insecurities stop them from investing in themselves.
Your doubts and insecurities can prevent you from investing in more than just your skivvies,
it can prevent you from personal growth and development in other areas of life such as improving your financial, physical, emotional, intellectual, spiritual and/or social state.
That, in the long run, can impact you…. and your life in a negative way.
Because my work focuses on helping women get out of debt, stay out of debt and build (or create) a meaningful life while they do it…I’ll use related examples.
If you’re struggling with money and debt right now…I want you to just take a moment and think how it’s affecting you and your life.
Are you stressed out and frustrated over it?
Are you losing sleep?
Are you just praying you’ll win the lotto or inherit money or even wishing money will just mysteriously appear in your bank account?
Is your financial situation negatively affecting your relationships with your spouse, your family, your friends, your co-workers or even the other people in your life?
Is it more difficult for you to have a handle on your emotions…in other words, is it way too easy for you to flip into bitch mode?
Is your financial situation affecting your productivity? I mean, it can be difficult to focus and think about other things when you’re stressed out over money and debt.
I want you to take the time and think about the negative impact that debt is having on your life.
This is not an exercise to make you feel like crap or pour salt into an open wound…it’s simply meant to give you a reality check….to move you to take action, and do something for yourself by facing your debt and doing something about it.
If you aren’t investing in gaining the knowledge and the skills you need to not only get out of debt…but to stay out of debt….you are doing yourself a disservice.
And the kicker is… your money problems will not magically disappear…if you don’t take control of the situation now…it’s going to get worse.
Debts are not like wine…they do not get better with age!
Investing in you can mean taking advantage of free or paid resources, reading books, taking classes, participating in workshops or even working with a coach like me…but the idea is to take action.
There are many blocks that prevent women from investing in themselves and from taking action to change their situation, here’s a few and they are not in any specific order:
1. They’re embarrassed about their situation and fear others will judge them.
This is a big one for many women, myself included. But here’s the truth…if this is you…it’s not about others judging you…it’s about how you see yourself!
We tend to think other people spend a lot of time thinking and talking about what’s happening in our lives…
truth is, unless your financial situation impacts them… they don’t really care….
If people have better things, to concern themselves with…such as…..their own life, they aren’t going to spend their time focusing on you and your finances.
And if you do know someone who would actually make you feel bad or judge you because of your situation….well, these are not the people you seek out for help.
2. Instead of making themselves the highest authority of their own lives. They seek permission to grow… from others.
It’s not a bad thing to get a second opinion from someone else if you’re trying to make a decision…. but bottom line…it’s up to you to determine what you need, what you want, what you deserve and to ultimately find a way to get it.
3. They aren’t sure it’s the “right” time.
Realistically it might never feel like the “right time”; you’ll always be able to find some excuse as to why you don’t have time to do something critical…. that will help you.
Not being the “right time” doesn’t mean it isn’t the best time. It’s up to you to carve out the necessary time and money to make it happen.
4. They’re worried they won’t get enough out of it or it’ll be a mistake.
YOU are the key player in your return on investment. Yes, it takes research to determine if something is worth pursuing… but more than that, your commitment, your actions, and your decisions directly affect your results.
5. They’re afraid to achieve success.
Instead of feeding your unfounded fears about what might happen if you succeed in achieving your goals….. focus on the positive aspects of your success. How would you feel and what would your life look like if you were in control of your money and living a debt-free life?
6. They feel guilty about spending money on themselves and put the needs of others ahead of their own.
I’m not talking about women who are struggling to keep a roof over their head or food on the table. I’m talking about women who have discretionary income, yet, they still feel guilty because they want to do something for themselves to get ahead…instead of using it for the good of others.
Does any of this sound familiar? These are just 6 examples of the blocks preventing women from investing in themselves…but there are more….
Are you putting off investing in yourself….. even though you know it’ll help get you closer to living your "ideal" life?
If so, what’s preventing you from doing it?
Many women struggle, with putting themselves first but look at it this way…if you don’t make you… #1….no one else will.
In order for you to be able to take care of and support others…you need to take care of you first.
As the airline safety procedures remind us….You have to put on your own oxygen mask first.
Remember, when I say “investment” I’m talking about the investment of your time, your energy, your focus and possibly your money….to gain the knowledge and the skills you need to help you achieve what you desire in or from your life.
I realize that money, debt and getting out of debt can be a sensitive subject….so if you are struggling and you want to talk about it….please feel free to private message me.
I want to help you get out of debt…stay out of debt…and build (or create) a meaningful life while you do it…but it all starts with a conversation.
On that note, I am outta here.
You have yourself a totally fantabulous day and always, always let your awesomeness shine!