Well hello hello and happy day!
Today I want to chat a little about stories….
Realistically, we’re all story tellers in a way…
We tell stories when we share the latest news or when we share things that are going on in our lives and we even tell stories when we try to get out of situations we don’t want to be in….
For example….Have you ever told a little white lie when you really didn’t want to do something but couldn’t come right out and say it? Well….that’s a story.
But the most damaging stories are the negative stories we tell ourselves, the ones that prevent us from achieving our goals.
These stories usually have an emotional attachment to them…and when we add an emotions both negative and positive to a story…it becomes more believable and eventually plays out.
For example…let’s say your current story is …”I can’t get out of debt!”
And every time you think of your debt…you feel frustrated, you feel stressed out, you feel anxious…you feel fear. By connecting so much emotion to this story…it becomes real…it’s more believable and your thoughts, your actions and how you speak, start to reinforce the story and make it even more believable.
But the good news is…this is just a story…it can be re-written and your new story can be one that makes you feel happy and excited and hopeful!
I mean, first of all, how can you possibly know for sure you can’t get out of debt?
Today is a brand new day…a clean slate…anything that happened in the past is gone, it’s done…
Even if you struggled with debt yesterday…that doesn’t mean today has to play out the same way!
When you tell yourself that you can’t get out of debt…how does it make you feel?
Bad? Fearful? Anxious? Stressed? Frustrated? Mad?
I don’t know exactly how you feel but I’m thinkin’ you’re not jumpin’ up and down, screaming at the top of your lungs…… “Woohoo!! I’m up to my arse in debt! “ I don’t think that’s happening.
If your story makes you feel anything less than happy…why do you want to invest your time and your thoughts into it? Why do you want to reinforce that story?
Ask yourself those question and give yourself an honest answer.
What story would serve you better?
Maybe your new story can be “It is possible for me to get out of debt!”
Say it a few times…and if the old negative beliefs start creeping in push them aside…even just briefly. How does your new story make you feel? What emotions can you connect to it?
It does take more than just saying it, to get you to buy into the new story…it has to be totally convincing to you. I mean, you’ve attached so much emotion and belief to the old story…how can you shift that level of emotion (positive emotion) to your new story?
You do need to shift from you your old story to your new story because you can’t have your old negative story playing in your head telling you, you can’t do it and at the same time try to convince yourself that you can do it…
It’s kinda like trying to drive a car with one foot on the gas and the other on the brake…no matter how hard you push on the gas….the brake (like your negative story) will always stop you from getting where you to be.
That’s why it’s so important to take the power away from that negative story and give it to your new, positive, story.
To move forward, first of all…you may need a little evidence to support your new story…which means…you’ll have to squash the negative beliefs associated with it…
One of your old beliefs may be, you can’t get out of debt because you aren’t great at math….You can change that around to support your new story by saying something like:
“I know how to use a calculator and there’s nothing I need to do that a calculator can’t handle.”
Another old belief may be….I’ve tried to do this before but it just didn’t work for me…Change that belief around to support your new story:
“What I was doing before didn’t work…but I can learn new skills that will help me get out of debt.”
Another old belief may be “I can’t afford to pay someone to help me get out of debt…. if I’m in debt.”
New belief…”If I really want to make this happen I will find a way to do it…”
This is one of the biggest obstacles people tend to face. Because it’s like how can I afford to pay out this money when I am struggling to pay my bills….
I don’t know about you…but I know on more than one occasion I’ve found the money to get what I need…both in my personal life and in my business.
It always came down to this question….”Can I afford NOT to do this?”
If it was a priority for me and the return was going to be greater than the investment…I found a way to do it.
It always makes me think about when I used to smoke (no, smoking did not improve my life on any level) but…no matter how tight money was…I always managed to find a way to have cigarettes.
It’s one of those things…. if you want it bad enough, you will find a way.
But let’s get back to the last belief…”If I really want to make this happen, I will find a way to do it.”
If someone really, truly cannot find the money to invest in getting help…there are many free resources out there to help them get started.
Here’s a couple of FREE resources I offer and the links (Buttons) to access them:
#1 The first one is a guide containing 10 practical strategies to help you get out of debt. Click the button below to get your copy.
#2 If you have fluctuating or irregular income…and you want to learn strategies to help you manage your finances in a way that will help reduce your money-related stress...... here’s a FREE guide to help you …
This guide can also be used by people who just want get out of the “living paycheque to paycheque” cycle. Click on the button below to get your free guide.
Both of these guides contain valuable information and your only investment is the time to sign up for them and the time to read them.
Just to recap:
If the story you tell yourself, makes you feel anything less than happy…it’s time to re-write it.
Your new story is meant to make you feel happy, excited and hopeful!
Disconnect emotionally and squash the beliefs from your old story.
It will take time to create and incorporate your new stories but you can do it! You just have to believe in you and your abilities to make change happen!
Understand your priorities and before you get hung up on a price tag…think about what you will be getting in return….
Investing in gaining the knowledge and skills to get out of debt and stay out of debt may mean your peace of mind, control over your money, increased self-confidence and self-pride, financial security, etc.
There are resources out there to help you…both paid and free!
On that note I am outta here!
Have yourself a totally fantabulous day and always let your awesomeness shine!